Breaking Barriers Against Domestic Violence

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What police originally thought was an attempted suicide turns out to be domestic violence. Investigators said the survivor suffered serious injuries after being attacked by his partner in Dixon.

“People need to be aware of domestic violence and how dangerous it is you know it may start as a push or a slap but it can definitely escalate quickly,” said Lee County state’s attorney Anna Sacco-Miller. “And as Chief Langloss said it can become deadly.”

Experts told KWQC today domestic violence sees no boundaries.

A recent review of studies by Northwestern University found that domestic violence is likely more frequent for same-sex couples. The report said the stigma of being gay makes survivors of abuse more reluctant to talk about violence.

But advocacy groups in the Quad Cities want you to know, our community doesn’t accept violence regardless of if you’re in a same-sex relationship or not.

“I know when you walked in you probably saw our big rainbow flag,” said director of Safe Path Survivor Resources Nicole Cisne Durbin. “That’s us trying to indicate immediately that we’re welcoming and friendly to anyone to all populations.”

No matter what ethnicity, socio-economic background, gender or if you’re in a same-sex relationship…Nicole said they’re there to help you.

“The fact of the matter is, no one deserves to be in a relationship where someone has power or control over them regardless of what type of relationship they’re in,” she said.

At Family Resources in Moline, they help survivors from sexual and domestic abuse with free and confidential services.

“When you are an LGBTQ individual and a survivor of domestic violence and in a domestic violence relationship, those barriers compound on each other,” said Nicole.

She said people from any marginalized community often endure additional hurdles to get help.

Something Davenport Alderman Bill Boom said he’s seen first hand.

“I’ve known people that have been involved in domestic violence in the gay community,” said Ald. Boom. “In fact, I’ve sheltered people from domestic violence with partners.”

He said for gay men reaching out can be even tougher.

“There’s a hesitancy because you’re a man to report something like that because we’re already marginalize and people think we’re less of a man, but to report that you’re being abused by someone and not taking care of it is even harder,” he said.

He said domestic violence doesn’t escape any community.

“I think everybody needs to step up and recognize this is nothing to be stigmatized over, it’s something to be dealt with,” said Ald. Boom.

If you are a victim of abuse, there is help out there.

This is a 24-hour hotline: 866-921-3354. Every call is free and confidential.

24 Hour Regional Iowa Crisis Lines:
– Sexual Assault 800-228-1625
– Domestic Violence 800-373-1043

24 Hour Illinois Crisis Line:
– Quad Cities and Rock Island County, 309-797-1777

Walk-in crisis facilities (staffed from 8:30 AM until 5:00 PM M-F):
– Davenport:
2800 Eastern Avenue
Davenport, IA 52803

– Moline
1521 47th Avenue
Moline, IL 61265

– Muscatine
119 Sycamore Street
Muscatine, IA 52761

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